"Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday."

The title is a quote from Princess Bride because i always think of that when i think about weddings. 

So my friend just asked me today if there was anything I would have changed about my wedding and my only change would have been my photographer.  Now I realize a % of the blame goes to myself for not fully communicating with my photographer. BUT she was so not interested in taking my wedding photos she was more interested in talking to my friend who was also her friend. She was cheap though… so you get what you pay for.

But other than that I totally loved my wedding. It was small, unique to me and the husband and inexpensive. I picked the things I really wanted and all the other hype went out the window.  My sister did the same thing with her wedding. I feel like so many people fall into the list of what every wedding is supposed to have or be and end up with this monster of a thing.  The two weddings I attended in 2013 actually also did the same thing they did the things they wanted and said screw you convention. Not knocking conventional weddings per-say just knocking the idea that you HAVE TO have a wedding a certain way.  Also all the money people waste on all the things they say you MUST HAVE! 

One big thing I don’t get is wedding cakes, most of the weddings I have been too have had real pretty cakes but they tasted AWFUL.  So when I had mine we went to 3 different bakeries and tried their cakes one place had a moist pumpkin cake with cream cheese frosting that I died for!  So they were the winner!  B/c I find most cakes have a moisture issue like the cake is so dry! That is not a cake that is sadness. Don’t want to brag but everyone loved our cake. Weather they just said it to be nice or not I don’t know, I didn’t seek out they just confessed loving it.  So if you’re getting married do cake justice would you! Or go with an ice cream bar! (Coldstone does that!!) 

Another reason why wedding things are on my mind, it was my 3 year anniversary on Monday!  We didn’t do much because of other life things happening plus were kind of celebrate the milestone ones more people than celebrate every one.  But tell me how it can feel like way longer and not that long at the same time. I feel like we’ve been married forever yet not that long at the same time.  I guess the forever part comes because we have been together for 8 years and 8 months (LOL) we’ve lived together for 8 years and 6 months of that time and have been married for 3 of those years!  So all that to say yay 3 year anniversary!  Yippee to still liking (yes and loving each other) each other, still learning new things about each other, and still wanting to go on crazy adventures with each other. He is certainly the peanut butter to my jelly!

Pride & Responsible

Pride - a feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people

Responsible - having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one's job or role.

Something that gets at me like nothing else are people who don’t want to take pride in the things they do or be responsible for their actions / life / commitments. There is a situation (let’s call it that) that took place (taking place) in my derby world right now that involves the lack of these things. People having no pride in team or themselves I would have to guess which would lead to them completely passing the buck on their responsibilities. 

It’s frustrating because the responsibilities aren’t too demanding and everyone else gets their stuff done. But the same people over and over want special treatment or rules to be bent for their wills. They complain and whine their way to the results they want and because they did this for so long it resulted in the place we are at right now.  

If you read this blog you know how much I love my team the sweethearts.  I love my team so much b/c we work together so well, we know the things we need to do and we do them, when one of us is falling behind we see what we can do to help, and in general I feel like we have some grace and class.  So to be in the situation we are in right now is just not fun. We will move on and be better for it (most of us have already put our feelings away on this I’m slow to let things go). But it’s still just real shitty. 

Then we move on to other aspect of my life where this comes into play… work. At work I feel like 80% of the people don’t want to take any pride in their work or responsibility and it leads to things not getting done (important things) or if they do they get done very poorly.  It results in other people feeling over worked b/c they are making up for someone else not doing their job and the biggest pain it leads to is the blame game. OH how the blame game is so annoying. “I thought it was such and such’s job to do fill in the blank!  It’s not my job…”  I love when people say that too me b/c I would love to see this magically list of tasks they have with their “job” on it. They must have some limiting list that precludes them from responsibilities right? 

I just feel like more people need to take responsibility for things and then take pride because if you want your work to be great representations of you then have some damn pride already. Now I’m not talking too much pride where it becomes UN-helpful, I’m talking the amount where it helps you accomplish your very best. Ugh.

End rant.

The year to write more

Or so I'm telling myself! This year i wanna write more things, spend more time being creative because i have a constant stream of stories running through my head.  I don't know if other people think this way where their minds just go off on a tangent and creates a whole story.  For example i see someone walking down a busy street and i create a whole story of why they ended up walking, where their headed what kind of work they do... it happens a lot. Or if i think about a new job i don't just think about a new job in my mind i create this whole new world of possibilities this job would bring to me. how it would change everything. In reality i know that isn't really how things will go but it's fun to imagine and create a story.

So what was the 1st thing i wrote for 2014?  Oh it's a doozie... it's my hardest piece of work yet... my resume and cover letter!  Ok so i did that begrudgingly. why? i guess because i prefer to write made up things and imagine rather then try to focus on what skills i have and what someone else will find appealing. UGH. selling myself is so annoying.  I was super whinny while i did it, you can ask the honey face. and he is all "the hard part will be over once you get it done..."  FALSE! False this is just the start of the "hard part." I think that is what i hate the most. It doesn't end there.

At least i know i'm not alone in this terrible task. So there is that. it's just too bad it's terrible. Good luck to all of us out there looking for something!  Thankfully i'm not in any hurry.

But seriously i hope to write more this year... so maybe you'll have more to read here too! (one can hope.)